Tuesday, December 29, 2009
Sunday, December 20, 2009
Friday, November 6, 2009
Monday, October 19, 2009
Saturday, October 10, 2009
Monday, September 21, 2009
The Redhead likes the name.
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Sunday, August 23, 2009
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Brian and Tracy,
Congratulations, you are now Gladney approved and ready to begin the dossier and ultimately the referral phase of your adoption process. I am mailing you both an approval packet with your approval certificate and quarterly training information for your “approved and waiting” period.
Sunday, June 21, 2009
"Any time art touches your life with tears, whether through a story, song, film, or painting, it was wise to pay attention to those tears because your tears could help you find your heart. And if you found your heart, you found what was dear to God. If you found what was dear to God, you found the answer to how you should live your life."
"I still feel a flood in my throat every time I think of saying goodbye to Hermela [the baby's birth mother]. I'm almost certain the entirety of my feelings in that moment will remain forever ineffable. Ambivalence is perhaps the best word I can muster to describe how I felt. Part of me felt the rightness of God fulfilling a dream of ours, the rightness of God meeting a need of Hermela's, and the rightness of Hermela's courage and sacrifice. The other part of me felt the wrongness of adoption, the wrongness of broken families, and the wrongness of abject poverty....In an ideal world, Hermela would never have had to give up her child for adoption--for whatever reasons.... In an ideal world, infertility would be nothing more than a footnote in the annals of medical history.... [All] of us on some level feel the wrongness of the world in our core. And maybe what that means is that until people like Hermela don't have to give up their children to infertile couples like us, none of us are meant to feel at peace in our skin."
"There are times, though, when I will recall moments from my journey to Ethiopia, and I will think to myself that Silas could have so easily grown up to become like the street children who approached our car, barefoot and ragged, their eyes hollowed with hunger, their hands cracked and callous as they begged for loose change. When I think about that, along with meeting Hermela and seeing many of the children at the orphanage, and I think about how my adoption journey with Josh has changed everything from my marriage to my family, from my faith to my dreams, I quietly realize this truth: maybe all along, I needed Silas more than Silas needed me."
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Thursday, June 11, 2009
Monday, June 8, 2009
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Wednesday, June 3, 2009
We thank You, Lord, for this opportunity to adopt! We can't wait to meet our sweet kids!
Friday, May 29, 2009
- Phone interview with the agency
- Filling out an application
- Filling out and notarizing a boatload of paperwork
- Seeing a physician and getting blood tests done
- Fingerprinting to receive an FBI Clearance
- Homestudy - An adoption social worker comes to your home and writes a report evaluating you and your home as a safe environment for a child. We had our homestudy visit last week and are currently waiting on our social worker to complete her report.
- Compiling your dossier. A dossier is a body of paperwork required by the foreign government from which you are adopting. We have hired a dossier service to help us in gathering an authenticating these documents. She has been a complete blessing and really KNOWS HER STUFF!
- Once the homestudy is completed, Customs and Immigration send you your approval to adopt an orphan from a foreign country (form 171-H).
- Once the dossier is complete, it can be submitted to the Ethiopian government, and then...finally...
- You are placed on your adoption agency's waiting list to be matched with your child(ren). The current average waiting time for an infant 0-12 months old is 8 months.
- One day after you've waited longer than you ever thought you could, you receive a telephone call from a very excited adoption caseworker at your agency with your referral. That means you get to see a picture of the baby you are being given the opportunity to adopt. This is pretty much the equivalent of having an ultrasound and getting to see your sweet baby's face for the first time in a picture. You also receive any known information about the child (age, health, circumstances that made him/her an orphan).
- Wait to be given a court date (usually a 1 month wait).
- Wait for the court date to arrive (usually a 1-2 month wait).
- Pass court. The day your baby passes court in Ethiopia, you are considered the legal parents of the child by the Ethiopian government.
- Travel to pick up your child (usually 3 weeks after passing court). This must be like the birth part--finally getting hold your long-awaited child in your arms!
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
- What made you decide to adopt from Ethiopia?
- What do you like to do together for fun?
- What are some things you remember from your childhood?
- What do you remember of your parents' interactions?
- What are five adjectives you would use to describe your mother? Your father?
- How will you prepare your child to face racism?
- What is your philosophy on parenting and discipline?
- Will one of you be the primary disciplinarian or will you share disciplining equally?
- Do you drink?
- Do you smoke?
- Do you use recreational drugs?
- How do you describe yourself?
- How do you describe your spouse?
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Thursday, May 14, 2009
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Occasionally, my friends and I would bring them something to eat; a happy meal from McDonalds or some other treat. We knew that giving them money would do them no good. They wouldn't see any of it. These children were being used by adults. Adults who took advantage of the sympathy these kids garnered from those who saw them begging for money. Tragically, I witnessed children being used like this all over Romania. I hoped that someday, when I married, I could return to adopt a child and prevent at least one boy or girl from experiencing the exploitation I witnessed nearly every day.
Watching the moving "Slumdog Millionaire" brought back all those sad memories of Romanian street children. I found myself reliving those tragic memories over again. Halfway through the film, I leaned over and whispered to my wife, "this is why we're adopting."
At the time, we weren't even thinking seriously about international adoption, but the exploitation we saw in the film stirred our hearts and we reconsidered our options. We were moved by the story of a college friend of my wife who, along with her husband, had adopted two 3 1/2 year olds from Ethiopia.
Since the Romanian government no longer allows for international adoptions (long story...mostly due to corruption in the Romanian adoption system), we decided to look into adoptiong from Ethiopia, home to over four million orphans.
Though I couldn't change the world for those two little girls I saw begging in Romania, we knew we had the opportunity to change the world for a little one (or little ones) from Ethiopia and spare them from the fate I witnessed far too often in Eastern Europe.